20 Things I Wish I Heard 5 Years Ago

Often times we carry guilt, or regret, or an overwhelming encompassing of the two that seemingly pair up and try to destroy us inside out–literally.

We make mistakes, fall short, miss the mark, and hold onto it long enough to loath and plight with ourselves until we find a point of redemption that can account for the loss.

If you’ve never experienced this, then that is astounding. But based on the sure possibility that you’re human and living; I know you’ve felt less than amazing at one point in your life. I know I have.

I know that burning has a way of becoming sensational to you.
I know you anchor inside when he doesn’t text you back or like your photos.
I know losing her feels like you lost yourself.
I know you feel out of control.
I know you know better.
I know that looking back, if you could re-order your past, you would select express shipping.

I wish someone would have said these things to me.

And so I want to share them with you.

Because sometimes, we just need to hear it.

Listen closely.


Love yourself. Dig deep. Weep when you need. Smile when you’re happy. Be free to appreciate you. No one else will love you better. It starts with you.


Love God. Fall in love every day. Fall for the way he says your name like no one else can.


And let God love you. He sees you. He wants you, too. Let him fill every crevice of brokenness and pain, mend every blistering heartbreak.


You are loved. Really loved.Girl, you need to understand and believe it.


You are beautiful.Truly and entirely. Just as you are, right where you are. You are a diamond.


Your body is beautiful.Don’t speak or think badly about it. Don’t let anyone look at you too long. Don’t let anyone touch you. Love every imperfection. It’s yours. You make love to you.


You can do anything.You really can. Just jump at the crazy ideas you have.


You’re doing well.All the things you’re doing now — you do them flawlessly, keep going.


School is not everything. Don’t let your grades be so important you loose yourself. They don’t define you, love.


Have fun. Seriously.


He won’t mend you. Stop worrying about that boy. He’s a boy. Focus on your future.


“For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

Jeremiah 29:11. Your past will not dictate your future. Stop making it giant in your life. Let it all go.


Grow more. Make room for lovely things. Water your own lilies. Grow your heart.


Pain is fleeting. The pain you feel won’t last, so smile at every opportunity you can.


Your dad is missing out on gold.


Your mom is trying. Cut her some slack. She needs your love, too.


You are not your abuser.He is despicable. You are innocent.


You are re-ordering your ancestor’s trail. Maintain your integrity and trust your instincts. Your lineage will look to you as legendary.


Love prevails. Your fairy tale is on its way. Happily ever after will be yours. Don’t let go of the enchantment you carry in your heart. Don’t let hatred win. Stay hopeful. Keep dreaming.


Get off your phone. Remind me, how many hours have you wasted?